Most people expect an advice column with ideas about what to do for Valentine’s Day, not a blog about things you should NOT do on that this date. But that’s our topic because so many couples do, in fact, screw up the biggest romantic holiday of the year. And then they feel bitter about it. Let’s avoid that this year here are 5 ways to avoid messing up Valentine’s Day.
1) Make plans. If you need a babysitter, make those arrangements now or you won’t be able to get one at the last minute. Spontaneity sucks when it doesn’t work out.
2) If you’re going to stay in and cook an amazing dinner, plan for it and shop for it now, you should be shopping for dinner necessities at the latest during lunch. You can even think about the music and décor in ways you wouldn’t usually. But seriously, plan it out so that it’s obvious you made a very special effort and it’s not just another night at home in front of the television. Don’t end up doing fancy carryout at the last minute.
3) Spend the time alone together. Do not accept his mother’s dinner invitation or agree to join another couple for fondue at the Melting Pot. The night is about the two of you, and only the two of you. I don’t care how alone his recently divorced brother may feel, or how bad you feel about ditching your single BFF for the night, Valentine’s Day is NOT the night to include a third wheel, no matter how good your intentions may be. You’re not doing them any favors with the pity invite anyway.
4) Resist the urge to look at your phone during your Valentine’s date. Save the selfies for another time and stay off Facebook and Twitter, you don’t need to prove to the world that somebody loves you! You’re out with that person and that is proof enough. You have a life and you should be living it, not documenting it like a reality show. Focus on each other. If you have children, do your best to tune them out for the night. You can feed them heart-shaped pancakes for breakfast that morning instead. Save the nighttime for your significant other.
5) Finally, whatever you end up doing with your significant other on Valentine’s Day, do not jabber on about the wedding proposals or fantastic gifts your other friends are receiving from their other halves. While you may have something special coming, you also may not, if the budget didn’t permit it. If you talk too much about your friend’s new engagement ring, you’ll truly poison the evening for both of you. It’s not a night for heavy conversations and deep relationship analysis.
so there you have it, 5 ways to avoid messing up Valentine’s day.